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Balancing work and life commitments can cause your libido to take a dip, and the reality is that sometimes you’re just not in the mood. But what happens if you’re trying to conceive? If you find yourself with a lower sex drive, you may have concerns or questions about whether it will impact your fertility. In this article, we’ll identify some common causes for a decrease in sex drive, and provide recommendations for how to increase male libido to address male-factor infertility.
You know the feeling that strikes after a romantic date or when your mind wanders and entertains your wildest fantasies — an ache and desire to engage in sexual activities? That longing for sex is your sex drive, commonly referred to as libido.
While sexual arousal refers to the physical response your body produces — like getting an erection or lubricating — sex drive refers to the mental interest and desire for sexual activities. (Of course, arousal and drive are closely linked.) Libido varies greatly within the general population, and can even change over time based on several factors.
Your sex drive will naturally fluctuate based on a variety of physical and mental factors, including:
Understanding the numerous factors that impact your sex drive can alleviate the stress that arises when you notice a dip in your libido — while helping you identify ways to address it and increase your libido, if it is causing issues.
Because libido levels vary so much within the general population, there is no such thing as a “normal libido.” Some people have naturally high sex drive, while others have lower sex drives. Sex drive is likely to shift throughout your lifetime.
Remaining aware of your sex drive is beneficial, because it can be an indicator of general health and quality of life. While your libido can and will fluctuate, significant changes can be a sign of other issues.
It can be difficult to talk about having a lower sex drive, especially for cisgender men, who often face societal pressures that equate sex with masculinity. The good news? Low libido is fairly common. In one study, about 5% of middle-aged men surveyed experienced low sexual desire due to a combination of lifestyle factors and comorbidities.
Depression is associated with a symptom known as “anhedonia,” the inability to feel enjoyment or pleasure from activities you once enjoyed. For many people experiencing depression, that includes sex. Studies have found that over 1 in 3 men with depression report decreased libido.
Your sex drive may gradually decline as you get older. That’s because testosterone is a sex hormone that plays an integral role in sex drive (as well as fertility and sperm production), and as cisgender men age, testosterone levels naturally drop.
A decline in hormone levels isn’t the only culprit for low libidos. As we age, medical conditions (and the medications to treat them) become more prevalent, and can potentially impact our sex drive later in life. Cardiovascular disease, diabetes, weight gain, and high blood pressure can all cause a lower sex drive.
Other potential causes of low sex drive in males include hormone imbalances (such as low testosterone), chronic illness, stress or sleep disturbances, or substance use, including alcohol.
Low sex drive isn’t necessarily a symptom of male infertility. But in some cases, the two issues may be correlated. Several factors and conditions that affect sex drive also have an impact on male fertility, including:
For those who are trying to conceive with low testosterone, it is important to note that it is possible to have low testosterone without fertility issues. Testosterone is just one of the hormones that influences sperm production. Learn more about the hormones that drive male fertility.
While many men don’t think of themselves as having a “biological clock,” male fertility declines significantly with age. Especially after age 40, sperm production decreases and becomes less effective, resulting in lower sperm counts, poorer motility (how well your sperm are moving or swimming), and higher percentages of sperm with genetic damage.
If you and your partner are having issues conceiving, you may consider male fertility testing since statistically, people with sperm play a role in 40–50% of infertility cases.
The stress of infertility can be enough on its own to affect an individual’s sex drive. Under stress, your body releases cortisol, a hormone that triggers your body’s natural fight or flight response. It also results in a low sex drive.
Individuals that are struggling with infertility may face issues with self-image and confidence. Lower levels of self-esteem can have a significant impact on sex drive. Communicating these issues with your partner and seeking help from a therapist or counselor can empower you to overcome a negative self-image.
When you’re stressed about your ability to conceive, or you’ve been trying for a while, your sex life may become less spontaneous and exciting, or even feel like a chore. It doesn’t help that sex while trying to concieve is typically on a schedule. The added pressure to perform can be enough to give some people an issue known as “situational erectile dysfunction.”
That’s why it’s important to maintain romance in your sex life when trying to conceive. Don’t forget about the details — candles, date nights, late-night massages, whatever works for you — that set the mood and make sex an opportunity to connect with your partner.
The best and most effective way to increase male libido is by addressing the underlying physical and emotional factors that caused sex drive to decrease. Consider which factor or combination of factors are most likely to impact you, and create a game plan to adopt some of the following practices into your routine.
Receiving a male-factor infertility diagnosis can be jarring and stressful for all parties in a relationship. The best method for treating male-factor infertility will depend on the diagnosis and cause.
The good news is that many of the better lifestyle habits you might try to increase your libido can also have a positive impact on your sperm (and vice versa). The best ways to improve your sperm health on your own include:
Advanced treatment options for male-factor infertility can include:
If you are thinking about pursuing male fertility treatments like IUI or IVF now or in the future, you should consider sperm freezing. Once sperm is frozen, it can be stored indefinitely without affecting its ability to create a pregnancy.
Traditional male fertility testing involves visiting a urologist to provide your medical history and receive a physical exam, during which the doctor will examine your genitals, collect a semen sample, and run blood tests.
However, male fertility testing doesn’t need to be an invasive, expensive, or time-consuming process. Sperm testing and freezing kits offer a comfortable and quick way to evaluate male fertility. Learn more about how at-home sperm testing works.
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